Do You Truly Feel Deserving?
Do You Truly Feel Deserving?
The other day, I sat down with my journal, intending to explore a nagging feeling I couldn’t quite shake. It wasn’t loud, but it was persistent—a subtle sense of resistance, like something was holding me back. As I started writing, the word “deserving” kept coming up.
At first, I brushed it off. After all, I’ve done a lot of personal work over the years. I’ve confronted limiting beliefs, reshaped my mindset, and created space for growth and abundance. Surely, I had moved past this idea of not feeling deserving, right?
But something told me to dig deeper.
Tracing the Roots
Using a process we call RFPI in RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy), I decided to track this feeling back to its root cause. This technique helps uncover the origins of beliefs that shape our lives, often buried deep in the subconscious.
Almost immediately, I heard a memory surface—a moment from childhood, where I heard my dad’s voice saying:
“You don’t deserve anything.”
It hit me like a wave. That one sentence, spoken in a fleeting moment decades ago, had planted a seed. And from that seed, a belief had grown, silently shaping the way I viewed myself, my relationships, and my life.
The Ripple Effect
As I explored further, I began to see how this belief had threaded itself through the years.
In relationships, it showed up as over-giving or settling for less than I truly wanted. In work, it manifested as hesitating to ask for more or doubting my worthiness of success. Even in moments of joy or abundance, I noticed how quickly I would dismiss them as fleeting or undeserved.
What struck me most was how subtle it had become over time. While I’ve done the work to address this belief in the past, it was still hanging on—just by a thread, but enough to cause resistance.
The Power of Awareness
The beauty of the RFPI process is how quickly it can bring clarity. Within moments, I could see this belief for what it was: a relic of the past, no longer serving me.
Awareness is the first step to change. Once I saw it, I understood it wasn’t truth—just a story I had internalised. A story I could rewrite.
And so, I did. Through journaling, reflection, and self-compassion, I reminded myself:
- I do deserve happiness.
- I do deserve success.
- I do deserve to live a life that feels aligned, abundant, and free.
It’s not just about saying the words—it’s about feeling them and aligning my actions with this renewed belief.
Why This Matters
I share this story not because I think everyone will have the same experience, but because so many of us carry these hidden beliefs. They quietly influence our choices, relationships, and opportunities.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself:
- Do I feel truly deserving of love?
- Do I feel worthy of success, happiness, or rest?
- What beliefs might be holding me back?
Sometimes, the answers are buried deep, but bringing them to light can be transformative.
A Final Thought
Healing isn’t always about massive breakthroughs or dramatic changes. Sometimes, it’s about uncovering those last, lingering threads of an old story and gently letting them go.
For me, this experience was a reminder that growth is a journey, not a destination. Even after nearly 50 years on this planet, I’m still learning, healing, and evolving.
And if this resonates with you, maybe it’s time to ask yourself: What do I truly believe I deserve?
