How to define personal power
You have the power.
You have all the power.
Reread it.
ALL THE POWER.
You get to create your reality. Yes, even the shit stuff.
I know. I know. It’s hard to hear this when you are not in a good space.
Please don’t get me wrong – I am not talking about horrible things happening to nice people or children getting sick. I don’t believe you create this, and it’s possibly worth another blog post.
What I am referring to is your personal reality. How you react to situations, people and circumstances. What you create in your reality.
This is all you.
When I realised this several years ago – I was genuinely shocked. In fact, I think I was outraged! Why had no one mentioned it to me before? I thought that everything outside of me was why I felt this way. It really hadn’t occurred to me that I had the power.
I had the power.
I always had the power.
I was angry.
I was shocked.
I was then excited!
Beyond belief! I literally saw the world through new eyes.
Oh wow! The potential!
Quoting Adam Sicinski, “Personal power means having a deep sense of empowerment. It’s an inner strength and confidence that carries you forward through the toughest of times…”
You nailed it, Adam. WOWSERS! This empowerment and realisation that you get to choose how to react.
He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. – Lao-Tzu
Ok, now you have digested that, let’s look at some warning signs on whether your personal power has been depleted…
- You complain about things in your life, but don’t change them
- You don’t or no longer trust yourself to make the right decisions (you may even let others make decisions for you)
- You seek approval from others (even though you know it isn’t good for you)
- You avoid conflict and even go out of your way to avoid it
- You get cranky, have resentment and often feel like this is bottling up inside of you
- You are easily hurt by criticism and fear rejection from others
- You don’t feel great about yourself; you feel judged and also judge others
- You find yourself easily manipulated by others
Jeeez, it’s a list and a half, isn’t it?
How do you start to change all of this?
Firstly by becoming aware of it. Then? Making some changes…bit by bit…how do you eat an elephant? Piece by piece, of course!
Which bit first? I reckon you start with anything personal development-wise. This is how I started; I got myself a life coach and took it from there. They taught me that I had the power inside of me to do this, and the added accountability helped too. In fact, I do find with my clients – it’s often the accountability part of it they enjoy more than the session itself.
Creating a mindset that is different to where you are is a journey – but you can do it! Progressively and consistently acquiring the necessary knowledge, experience, and skills can help propel you toward your goals.
So now, my friend – I will explain what it looks like to have tuned into your power.
In my Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) sessions, this is what essentially changes with my clients, which is why I talk about it so much!
When you are in touch with this power, this is what it can look like:
- You trust yourself and your decisions.
- You listen to your gut and tune into your intuition.
- You take responsibility – complete full responsibility for your life, actions, results, and choices.
- Your personal independence shines through. Ok, you consider others’ ideas, but ultimately you decide.
- When the sh*t hits the fan – you are not easily discouraged. In fact, you often use this as motivation to push forward.
- Emotional intelligence is something you have grown and developed. This allows you to remain neutral and clear-headed in emotional decisions and situations.
Now, this power isn’t always available 100% of the time. Why? Cos’ you are human. You have emotions, and this will get in the way.
But I like to think of the 80/20 rule here. Isn’t that great even if you are 80% in your power?
It all starts with clarity to gain this level of power for yourself. Get clear on what you DO want. (this is where I start with my clients). It’s super easy to work out what you don’t want, isn’t it? So, flip it on its head!
Example: I don’t want to be miserable, poor, stuck in the past and banging my head against a brick wall.
Flip it! I want to be happy, look toward the future and be clear about what I want.
Sounds way better, and that energy? Wow, that’s a change!
When you get clear on what you want, it’s time to let go of the past. We all have a past. Some of us have horrific pasts; I get it. In fact, I see and hear it with my RTT clients. And what I do with them is neutralise the past emotions through RTT and hypnotherapy. This can take from one to three or four sessions, and it works. Decades of hurt can be released in a month or so. By rewiring the mind, letting go of the past and creating clarity – we create a pathway of possibility. A pathway to the future. One that looks bright and full of power.
This creates confidence and self-assurance. It transforms how you perceive and interpret all the problems, challenges and obstacles you face in the future.
Sounds too good to be true? Well, my friend, I think you underestimate your power to change. Your ability to create this pathway of possibility.
My clients embrace this clarity. They create the life they want (and deserve) and soar towards their future. And you can too. Let’s chat.
Emma x
