Let go of relationships that are fear-based

Let go of relationships that are fear-based.

This can be tricky as you may not have even noticed that you have these in your life – until now. 

So, what is a fear-based relationship? 

These are relationships and attachments that only exist through fear of loss. 

These relationships once made sense but can often be co-dependent and unhealthy. If you notice that you can’t be your real self when you are with this person, this is a sign of a fear-based relationship. You fear losing them through being you. 

If you notice that you are settling in a relationship, this is another sign.

Putting up with sh*t, things you disagree with – because essentially, you think you might die alone. Conversely, relying on these people/person to be happy, you are in a fear-based relationship. The fear of loneliness can cause this, too – relationships should be based on love, not fear. 

If you notice that you get jealous of the people you hang out with who hang out with your partner – this is a fear-based relationship. 

Now, I am talking about being more jealous than average. I think it’s a natural feeling to be jealous…but when it turns into checking people’s phones, following them or other social media stalks. Then this is all based upon fear, not love. 

Last but definitely not least – if you get anxious or lash out easily when you are in this relationship…this is also a fear-based relationship. Getting angry with these people is unhealthy (for you or them), and if it’s happening regularly, especially between you, this is fear-based. 

Yes, I know that life stresses happen, money/job/family…but it’s more than this. It just makes sense doesn’t it? 

Am I telling you to walk away from your family and relationships to move forward in your life? Maybe it needs to be a consideration.

F*ck. This is a hard thing to take on, isn’t it? We fear being alone so much. So much so that we will put up with shi**y relationships long after we need to. 

Food for thought. 

I am aware that all of this is a lot to consider. So, do that. 

Consider it.